There are your Harley Riders then you have your Harley Bikers. The big difference is one understands the cost of one and the other thinks "I didn’t know Harley made a Yamaha model."
I ride with a lot of Harley guys, one a former stratoliner owner. Most don't hate us at all. But the riders understand there is a premium. "There is a bike for everybody and there is a Harley for everybody" is a common phrase. It's no different with cars. BMW's usually cost more because they are nicer overall than let's say a Toyota. Harley is a premium product. Most people find the premium to not be of value, like many of the people here.
Really, many of the upper Harley bikes are superior to the Stars, they are. I've ridden both and done a lot of research and your nicer Harleys are nicer, but at a cost. I can't afford the Harley I want so I ride the next best thing (and I feel it's better than any
Dyna and some Soft Tails). And their reliability is much better with the Twin Cam bikes. I've not seen a TC bike broken down yet. They also have a better aftermarket than most. Yamaha is the next best. Sorry, but that's a good thing for people like me who can bolt stuff on but not fab or do major engine work.
Now, the Bikers are into the CULTure. The idea of buying an American bike (though all Gold Wings are made here...). It's about the group. They are the people I don't like. My dad is one of them, but he at least respects the fact I don't have the money for a Harley, nor the time to justify that kind of money for one if I had it. For people like him, 20,000 is a slow year.
To end the rant, we all ride what we want and why we want to. The reason som e of "us" "hate" them and some of "they" "hate" us is ignorance, jealousy, and an over all idea that one thinks they are superior to the other for some reason because we all have different values.